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Information for same-sex partners

Breast cancer hasn't got anything to do with sexual preference, colour, race or religion. It strikes us all at random and we all feel the gamut of emotions that such a diagnosis arouses. – Judy

Women diagnosed with breast cancer and their female partners sometimes experience anxiety when considering whether to tell members of their medical team about their sexuality. Many women are unsure whether their health professional will be understanding and some women worry that they will be discriminated against.

Getting the right medical team

As the attitudes of health professionals vary, it’s important that you find the medical team to suit your needs as a couple. If you are unhappy about how you are being treated, or if you feel that you cannot be open about who you are, your partner might like to ask her GP for a referral to another specialist. If you are unsure where to start, the Australian Lesbian Medical Association (ALMA) has a list of health professionals who are recommended by lesbian women.

Taking care of yourself

Taking care of your partner during her breast cancer can be challenging and upsetting. During this time it’s important that you also take time out for yourself and take care of your own health. Looking after your needs as well as those of your partner and family will help you cope better and also support your partner as best you can.

Access to information and support

If you are looking for further support, you might like to consider the following resources:

Counselling services

  • Cancer Council Helpline (13 11 20) is a free, confidential telephone information and support service.
  • Cancer Connect (13 11 20) connects you with someone who has been through a similar cancer experience.
  • Relationships Australia (1300 364 277) offers relationship counselling.
  • Carers Australia National Carer Counselling Program (1800 242 636)

Support and support groups

  • State and Territory Cancer Councils (13 11 20) may be able to put you in touch with other same-sex couples who have been through the experience of breast cancer
  • You can join our online network to find others sharing a similar experience. 

Websites

  • The Mautner Project is an American organisation offering direct practical and support services to LGBTQ patients and their families who have been affected by cancer.

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