I have my life!!!!

Well done its the best feeling , hope all the rest goes well, we are blessed when the news is good xxxx adean

I think it's a case of  congratulations and comiserations at the same time. That's why this site is so good cos we understand those mixed feelings and 12 mths of treatment is a big chunk out of your life to not be feeling well. Friends can say stupid things,probably with the best intentions.We can either forgive them (cos they don't really understand)or withdraw from them for awhile.You sure have some fruit loops offering you weird advice! Where can I get me some of that miracle cream-might be able to grow a boob back! So just take one bit at a time-it can be so overwhelming.Good luck for next Friday-keep busy until then.

                            Tonya xx

Just had another phone call with all of this positivity!! Told her: You know what i need from you right now?? to yell and scream what a hideous, horrible thing this breast cancer is: You know what?? we screamed through the phone like absolute crazy women and it felt soooo good!! just the release... just for someone in my life not telling me how lucky i am to be alive!!! just to not feel selfish because there is worse people doing it a lot harder and having to go through a lot more!!

And Adean i wish i could get a miracle cream for your arm, has anyone come up with anything on here?? and thankyou Tonya!! I'm beginning to feel like a bit of a fruit loop after the last month already ha!! xxx

I'm with you on all the positivity rah rah......This is a s#%t of a disease and thats all there is to it ....we all have many different crosses to bear and by god we do it and do it as well as we can but honestly some of the crap people say makes me what to punch out head lights!!!!

My latest one from everyone is  "god you look great and your so positive" well thanks for that but I don't feel great I feel tired, sore, blistered, scared and over this.....the light is at the end of the tunnel for me only 5 more zapps to go but sometimes....oh I don't know all the trying not to show how scared we are and being brave for all and sundry...anyway I think I'm trying to say I'm with you girl and you yell and bellow as much and as long as you like - I find it less problematic than the fall out from headlight punching hahaha

Good luck for your surgery will be thinking of you Georgie

hi, good luck with surgery and the rest that will follow! we are all in the same boat, was in the same boat only few months ago and now awaiting news for next surgery date. effie

Yes to all of that. I am being positive for ME not for anyone else. I do get a bit tired of people saying how brave I'm being. What's the point of being anything else ? Sometimes I think we're expected to wander about crying and wailing all the time and LOOKING sick. Not me.

Having said that, you will feel like crap some of the time, it's inevitable. Just take all the pills and potions you are offered to help the side effects - whatever works.

As for miracle creams and meditation and lemon juice (?) well - maybe when all of science has failed and there are no other options you could give that a try. Honestly can't understand how people can even think that if there was a cure that doctors wouldn't be using it.

Good luck, be very kind to yourself.

magicmum

I'm with you on the friends bit.  I had one guy tell my husband and I all about some miracle plant which would knock this sucker on the head.  I wanted to slap him hard but restrained myself.  I thought if it was your wife is that what you would be recommending.  Don't think so.  I'll stick with science thanks very much.  So pleased you have had some good news. You'll get through as we all must..

Yours aye

JeanW

The girl in my room who was having liposuction asked could she be moved in case my cancer was contagious. she would not open the curtains had them drawn around for 4 days I opened them just to say hallo everyday,.

I banned all my family and friends from saying I was brave. I'm not brave. I'm just doing what I have to do and am tired,sore and terrified a lot of the time. One well meaning friend gave me a DVD on the miracle cream black salve and the oncology nurses when i told them about it said that if it was a miracle cure don't you think some pharmaceutical company would have bought and marketed it by now! So true! I did start going down the raw food path at first (not such a stretch for a vegetarian) but the exhaustion has seen me drop that - must admit it did make me feel pretty good for a time.
We all just do the best we can and it is such a roller coaster. Best of luck!
Tammy

You are so right, with some people who don't have to go through it.  They think they are being encouraging.  I never quite understood how I was being brave, I think what we do is take one day at a time and don't worry about tomorrow until it gets here.  Get through your surgery first and then start to tackle the rest, chemo, radiation etc as the need arises.  A friend of mine tried to tell be all about some herb that contained some B Vitamin (can't remember which one now) that was know to kill cancer, I know that she meant well but I just let it go.  As the others have said, if there is such a simple cure surely a pharmacutical company would have jumped on it by now.  Listen to your Oncologist, they know their job and let them know how you are feeling at every stage.  Mine asked a million questions each treatment day to find out how I was managing and was able to help further by changing a few of my meds which did make a difference. Just remember that we don't all react the same to our treatment. 

Not to forget the good news of being told that you will LIVE.  Just try to keep that in mind while you are going through the not so pleasant stuff.  I wish you well with your surgery.  Elayne