Final breath

Dear Nicole

I am so sad for you and feel for you and your loved ones.  It is such a trying time for us all to have to watch someone so loved and dear in our hearts to slowly leave this world.  As you say she is at peace now and that is the most important thing and you can hold on to that.  I also know your mum would not want you to mourn too long for her.  I know if it was my daughter having to say goodbye to me I would hope she would  mourn for me but then I would want her to get on with living her life to the fullest and laugh and smile and appreciate everything good that is around her. 

I would like to share with you the wonderful news that I have recently received in that my beautiful precious daughter is pregnant with their first child and I am so elated.  I hope my happy news can at least put a smile on your face while you are going through your suffering.

I recently lost my mum to pneumonia and it is still very very raw for me so I fully understand what you are going through and I send you all my love and condolonces to you and your family at this very trying time in your lives.

Many comforting hugs coming your way.

Mich xoxoxo

Mich,

Thank you so much for your message.  Yes, it is an extremely trying time for the whole family.  I feel exhausted physically, mentally and emotionally.  We weren't just mother and daughter, we were best friends.  I think once the funeral arrangements are finalised and the funeral complete, things will slowly start to improve (I hope).  I feel her with me and I'm holding onto that as tight as I can (even if it is all psychological)!

Thank you for sharing your special news.  How exciting!  And yes, it did put a smile on my face.  I know any of one's children who have children is special - but I believe even more so when it's your own daughter.  Congratulations on this fantastic news.  I wish your daughter a safe and uneventful pregnancy - and surely that means shopping time for you??

Beautiful news to hear Mich.  Take special care.

Love Nicole xoxo

Nicole,

My heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my Mum in 2002, and while I still miss her the raw heartache has passed.

Like you my Mum is at peace now and not in any pain or fighting anymore (My Mum had lymphatic cancer (also had breast cancer).

Take the time you need to grieve, love each other and rest.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. ♥

Nicole,

I am so very, very sorry to learn of your mother's passing.

I can only imagine the depth of pain you must feel to lose not just your mother but your best friend, it must be simply overwhelming. I do pray and hope that it will ease as time passes.

I do not doubt for one second that your mother is standing right by you, watching you with such love and pride. Do not be afraid to talk to her, I know that she will be listening - not just now but always. I'm sure she will always be there to support you in the same way that you have supported her during her time of need.

Thank-you so much for sharing your mother's journey with me on here, you have already taught me so very, very much. The way that you have conducted yourself throughout this battle is nothing short of remarkable and is truly a source of inspiration to me as I attempt to support my mother with her own battle. I really do hope that we can continue to keep in touch.

xxx

I'm so sorry Nicole to hear of your Mum's passing.

I wish that I had something inspirational to say but I don't. I remember we corresponded about your Mum last year and I am just so sad that treatment didn't work for her. 

She would have bee so proud of you and full of love to have you by her side as she died.  

Please let yourself grieve as long and hard as you need to.  Take time to remember your Mum and the love you shared.

Sending you love,

Amanda x

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum, Nicole.  I'm glad you had such a wonderful relationship with her, and have such strong and positive memories. Also sending love and hugs.

Di xxx

My condolences to you Nicole.  Mums are so special and it is very hard to lose them.  My dear mum would have been 80 today.  She passed away with me by her side two years ago (in ten days time).  Your mum would have loved having you by her side when she took her last breath.  I regard it as an enormous honour to be with a loved one when they pass on.  I can only wish that my two daughters will be with me when my time comes.  Remember all the wonderful times you had with your mum. XLeonie

Hi Nicole

So sorry to hear the news of your mums passing.

You were there for her, right to the end..... She is now watching over you and very proud. :)

I had my father pass away just over a year  ago, And then I was diagnosed with BC  in March this year. I was there also with the rest of my family as he passed away from Mesotheleoma. I travelled every two weeks interstate to see him and I will never forget as he to was my best friend. Both fathers and mothers are best friends as well as parents.

They are at peace.... I know my dad is.... and your mum is as well. I know my dad knew we were there (as he to was in a coma). And I know your mum would have known you were there, when you held her for the last time.

Feeling her around you is right... as I do with my dad. He is giving me now the courage to fight this horrible BC. I feel him around me and I talk to him now and then asking him for advice.

Hope all goes well ,and grieve as much as you need to. Cos I still am.... they have been a big part of your life that you will always remember. They gave you the strength , courage and memories.

Love to you Julie XX

Thank you all so much for your messages of support.  Mum gave me the strength I needed to speak at her funeral and I still constantly talk to her now as I know she's listening.

It was an absolulte gift to be with her when she passed away.  It's a moment I will never, ever forget.  I find deep comfort knowing she's now at peace.

My sincere thanks to you all for your constant love, support and advice when I so greatly needed it.  I will continue to be a part of this site and pray for you all. Love Nicole.