What was the one thing you wish someone had told you sooner?
Ok so I'm really curious to know where the gaps are in chemo/living with a partner who is undergoing treatment for cancer orientation? So what is the one thing that you wish you had known straight up front instead of having to learn through trial and error?
For me it was the following:
Momentum is growing
Hi everyone, my name is David and I've been involved in the cancer community after my wife died of breask cancer 12 years ago. After her death I had a "mid-life" professional identity crisis and left a 20+ year career in corporate management (during which I completed post-grad studies in Counselling) to spend my professional time supporting people going through "tough stuff". Whilst I work full-time in the community services sector I maintain a small counselling practice supporting families dealing with the unwelcome visitor called cancer.
Our Journey
Hey Guys , it is good to see other men who are a support to there wives and also to other men.
Through our journey I have meet alot of great survivors and fighters but some of the men you can see struggling you just want to take for a coffee or a scotch and say " so whats on your mind".
I would love to talk more with anyone that would like to share stories and be a support for others.
Cheers Scotty H
Men Who Care
Hi guys, my name is Clayton and I too have been and will always be a breast cancer carer and supporter.I lost my partner in Jan this year and like the rest of you found that there is no such support for men directly affected by it.A group I have started up in Brissie is Men Who Care,it's more one on one thing.The only phone calls I get are from the wives so I talk to them about their hubbies problems or concerns.So what I do now is I have joined up with a few of the women's support groups so that at least they all know I am out there to help.I hope that this sort of pyramid support may work
This is Great
After having had my own cancer journey I find myself now caring for my wife whilst she goes through hers. When she was first diagnosed I spent sometime looking for information and support for men in this situation. Sadly, there was very little available and I felt that this area was very under resourced.
Finally
Well I hate to say it but services for partners has been sadly lacking in my experience. We have our own journey, that is often not acknowledged which is just as life changing as those who are fighting this disease. I don't want to be told what someone who has cancer thinks I should/should not do, nor do I want to get the usual oh well most men can't hack it and leave tripe that I hear in supposed carers forums because it just isn't true.
